New Book Alert “God’s Best in Love and Life”




Book Description:

Are you frustrated with your love life? Are you having trouble with trusting God? The time between faith and the promise can be disheartening. Well, struggle no more!

Jasmine Doster shows how to transition from feeling weary and confused to walking in confidence through prayer. You cannot change your world in your own strength. However, you can shape your destiny with faith and prayer. God hears your prayers and he will answer them. This book is filled with powerful prayers for God’s best in LOVE and LIFE. Breakthrough stagnancy, loneliness and dead end relationships. Relationships either distract or edify your life. You deserve a relationship that will catapult you into your divine destiny.

Learn why you should believe for God’s Best.
Discover how to deal with desires in a godly way.
Learn how to pray for a marriage that is in alignment with God’s will.
Learn how to finally live God’s dream for your life.


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Purity is Possible


Romans 12:1 – Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God–this is your true and proper worship.

It is worship when we honor God with our bodies. We can make excuses, we can make provisions for our flesh, or be can make our flesh obey God’s word. You are in control. As believers we have been give the spirit of SELF-CONTROL. It is a fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23)


I have a question for you.  Did you receive the Holy Spirit when you believed?? (Acts 19:2)


I highly recommend being filled with the Holy Spirit. It will make a world of difference. You can be in church and have prayed the sinners prayer at some point in time, but if you aren’t filled with the Holy Spirit.  When you are filled with the Holy Spirit you have thee spirit of God on the inside of you. He bring a supernatural ability (grace) that you would not have in your own strength, in this case a divine self-control. Without the infilling of the Holy Spirit you may not have much interest in the things of the spiritual things. Being filled with the Holy Spirit gives you POWER from Heaven to overcome, to walk boldly in God’s word, and to flee lust.  This infilling of the Holy Spirit comes with the evidence of speaking in tongues (Read Acts 19).


Acts 19:6 – When Paul placed his hands on them, the Holy Spirit came on them, and they spoke in tongues and prophesied. There were about twelve men in all.


Prayer to receive the infilling of the Holy Spirit:

Dear Heavenly Father,

I pray that you will fill me with the fullness of your Holy Spirit. Baptize me with the Holy Spirit with evidence of speaking in tongues, according Acts 19:6.  Empower me to live a life that is pleasing to you. Lead me and guide me on a daily basis, I want to live life lead by the Spirit of the Living God. Convict me of the sin in my life, cleanse me from unrighteousness’.  In Jesus name, Amen.


1 )Lust Leads You Away


2 Timothy 3:1-9 – But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, 4 traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! 6 For of this sort are those who creep into households and make captives of gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts, 7 always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. 8 Now as Jannes and Jambres resisted Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, disapproved concerning the faith; 9 but they will progress no further, for their folly will be manifest to all, as theirs also was.


You lust for the world and pleasure will lead you away from God. Don’t fool yourself or allow outside influences to make you think that you are being deprived of something. God’s word is right he gives us his instructions, because of what he already knows. He has seen the end from the beginning.


Living in the flesh only leads to death and destruction. The trick of the enemy is to get you mad with God feeling as though he has forsaken you and withholding something good from you.  Once you’ve believed the lie, it gets down in your heart like a weed in a garden and begins to eat at the word that’s been sown and your heart gets hard.  When your heart is hard you can’t receive from God and you’re no longer sensitive to his touch. Now the enemy has you desensitized and he can sting you and you don’t even feel it.


You think you’re fine. Everyone is doing it (in the world or even you friends from church).


Flee sin and tempting situations. In 1 Chronicles 4, Jabez asked God to “Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.” And God granted his request”. Sometimes is best for use to avoid evil all together. Don’t put yourself in a situation that you know is highly likely to result in sin and eventually pain.


2) Change of Heart and Will

Sometimes it’s our will that is the problem.

When we repent we turn away from sin.

We change our mind out what we thought was okay to line up with Gods word.

We come out of agreement with self-will /self-seeking/ our own understanding and we come into agreement with the will of God. You can know the right thing to do and you simply don’t want to do it. It’s not important enough to you. You think God is playing, you’ve encountered authority that didn’t do what they say or mean what they say early in life so you think its game. You don’t believe you will really have consequences for sin and lust. You do not own your body or your life, Jesus paid of the price for you. You trample him under you feet all over again when you DECIDE to ignore what he did for you.


Proverbs 14:12 – There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.



3) Love

The foundation of all of this is Love. Do you really love God? The more in love you become with God the more you will begin to hate the things he hates and desire to be like him. When we love God and we get a revelation of God he’s done for us and how much we actually need him b/c we cannot make it on our own, we give love and grace to others.  Not being able to walk in love is a sign of spiritual immaturity. John 14:15, ““If you love Me, you will keep My commandments.”


1 Corinthians 13:11 NIV – When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.

In others, when you mature and grow up its like going from child to man, You put aside childish excuses about why you cannot do what you know you need to be doing. Mature person understands what is at stake; what can be lost or damaged in the process. Let love be the difference maker for you. His grace is sufficient.


When you engage in sexual activity outside of marriage you open yourself up to spiritually damaging situation. Soul ties are formed and it provides an access key for satan in your life. Even if both people are believers. We are under the covering of Jesus Christ. Satan has no legal right to be in lives unless we invite him in. Sleepless nights, worry, depression, suicidal thought, unwanted pregnancies, baby daddy/mama drama are all consequences of sexual sin. It may feel good and bring pleasure temporarily but this is only a ploy to get you comfortable then satan has his way. Keep these things in mind the next time you’re presented with temptation. The devil makes his presentations.

2 Timothy 3:5 NIV – Having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.



3 Myth Busters on Christian Dating & Relationships


1) Real Christians Don’t Date

There’s this idea that dating is something that real Christians wouldn’t be involved in. From the information that’s out there I’ve gotten the depiction that you shouldn’t date unless you think they could be husband material. I think this is a dangerous outlook. A date is simply and interview. You go out with someone you talk and get to know that person over a mean or a fun activity. If the two of you decide to go on a second date the interview continues. Dates can be a fun way to socialize with another person without pressure. Nowhere in the bible does it say, don’t go out with “Johnny” unless the two of you are planning to get married. Yes, it takes TWO to tango, so you can want marriage or think “Johnny” is a great candidate for a spouse but if you two haven’t discussed and agreed he is not “your husband”. Stop telling your friends you just “met your husband”. Let a man lead and express clear and direct interest before you get your heart entangled. Proverbs 19:2, “Even zeal without knowledge is not good”.


2) If you desire a spouse you’re not focused on God

You just don’t spend enough time with God. This one drives me crazy everything I hear it or see it somewhere. There’s also a rumor that’s going around that if you’re not content with being single it’s because you don’t spend enough time with God and you’re not focus on him. This one is part of the very reason I’ve always shied away from even mentioning the topic in my books or blog. When I first heard some of this thing they sounded good at the beginning of my born again virgin, committing to purity (not having sex again until I’m married, to honor God with my body) journey. Then 2 years…3 years… 4 years… 5 years… in these ideas just got old. It made me feel like something was wrong with me. I shouldn’t feel the way I feel because I’m young fly and sanctified.


Jesus knows your hearts desires and he wants to fulfill them his way, in his divine timing. Psalm 145:16 NIV, “You open your hand and satisfy the desires of every living thing.” We just want to make sure that are motives are pure and that we don’t seek God for his hand, but his heart. Therefore, not being okay of not seeing a change in this area of your life if doesn’t mean you are not godly or an idol worshiper. I call it being real. If the woman with the issue of blood ignored her hemorrhaging she probably would have died.

Desire is Okay

You are not alone. You are in good company. In 1 Samuel 1 there was a woman named Hannah who also experienced the same disappointment. Hannah was one

of two wives of a man named Ramathaim. Hannah was a woman of God who was faithful and righteous.  Although Hannah was righteous had no children, the other wife had baby after baby year after year.

In 1 Samuel 1 verse 5 -8 “But to Hannah he gave a double portion because he loved her, and the LORD had closed her womb. Because the LORD had closed

Hannah’s womb, her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her. This went on year after year. Whenever Hannah went up to the house of the LORD, her rival

provoked her till she wept and would not eat. Hannah poured out her care to the Lord. God remembered Hannah’s cry, and he will remember yours.


3) When you meet “the one” you’ll just know right away


Zeal without knowledge can be dangerous. We want to be careful not to jump to conclusions and always bring things to God in prayer instead of making assumptions. You may hear stories of couples who said they knew the “the one” right away. Just because that is their story doesn’t mean it will be yours. Anytime we don’t have proper knowledge about something we open up ourselves to deception of the enemy. Everything that God creates, satan tries to copy as a counterfeit.


I remember meeting a guy a few years ago. We met a restaurant while grabbing lunch and he insisted on paying for my food while we were in line then we exchanged phone numbers. After getting acquainted on the phone for a few months we finally went on a first date. We went to see a movie then walked and talked for a while. There just seemed to be “something” about him that I really liked. As the day dwindled down and it was time to say goodbye we stood in front of each other holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes with childlike smiles and grins on our faces. I didn’t want the date to end and he didn’t either. He said, “I could just stand here all day with you”. As more time went on we had this crazy attraction to each other, its’ called infatuation. He wanted to go to Las Vegas and get married and spend the rest of our lives together. I “felt” like he was certainly “the one”. It had been so long since I met someone who I could sit and talk to on the phone forever. I like everything about him, he always made me smile.


Then I began to have these crazy dreams about him.  They would always start out good then have a negative twist. Like this one dream, he sent me a huge gift box

full of presents I was so excited when I got them, but when I opened them they had labels on them that said “warning could cause cancer”. Dreams like this one were warnings from God that he wasn’t everything he was presenting himself to be.

I knew those feelings from the beginning had to mean he was the one. Do you see how unwise it can be to make assumptions? Even if he expresses interest in you and the desire for marriage you have to prayerfully discern if the relationship is the will of God for you.


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Is it Bread or Stone ?


Matthew 7:7-12 NIV – “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

“Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! 12 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.


I want you to ask yourself a question – Is It Bread or Stone?

Let’s take a look at what bread represents

Bread is

-food that sustains life.

-Jesus is the bread of life.

– He nourishes ours spirits

– He removed a heart of stone and gives us a heart of flesh.

– Jesus/Bread is the real deal. The way, the truth and the life.


Stone is

– An object, not alive

– it’s physically hard, when hard hearts are mentioned in the bible its always used negatively when someone is turning their heart away from the will of God.

– it definitely wouldn’t taste good or serve your spiritual life


Deceiving ourselves when its’ obvious:

We can often ask God for something, know his will and then deceive ourselves into thinking a counterfeit or stone is “the blessing”. However after looking at stones and bread above we can see that bread and stone are opposites. They don’t go together, they don’t serve the same purpose. One brings life one brings spiritual death.

If you’re reading this and you’ve been petitioning and praying to God to give you clarity, know that if its qualities are stone like it’s probably stone.

The worst part about self-deception is that you talk yourself into it. God is a good God. In the passage he mentions earthly parents giving good gifts to their children. Don’t reason your way into a curse, because you are too impatient or full of doubt to wait on God’s hand to move and deliver. This could be in relationships, your career etc. You start out in expectation of something amazing. You’ve read and believed that “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us “ (Ephesians 3:20).  Then a day goes by, then a month, then a year and you start to pick up stones trying to chew it….and you fool yourself into thinking it’s some bread. Bread and stone are nothing alike.

We see this illustrated again in Luke 18:1-8 NIV :

Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought. And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’

“For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think, yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’”

And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust judge says. And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? I tell you, he will see that they get justice, and quickly. However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?”

In the above passage even an EVIL judge that doesn’t care about God or what people think will render justice; that which is GOOD when the widow stays in faith.


Prayer/Declaration: Lord, help us to let go of stone so we can receive the bread that you’ve have prepared for us.

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Flesh vs. Spirit Minded

“Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.” (Romans 8:5-6)

#livebySpirit it’s easy to live by your flesh with no self restraint, but the results of this type of lifestyle are stress, worry, pain and problems. The flesh is weak, impulsive and inconsistent. However when we life according to the spirit it produces a peace that cannot be explained. When we do God’s word and are led by his spirit we align ourselves with Heaven.

Works of the flesh (Galatians 5:19-21)
sexual immorality
fits of anger

Fleshy thoughts :
1. Wants glory for oneself and to be impressive (selfish ambition)
2. Wants to feel good
3. Will do anything for personal gain including compromise (greed)
4. Ruled by whatever emotion comes your way
5. Agrees with the ways of the world

Holy Spirit filled thoughts:

1. Wants God’s will to be done above all else
2. Seeks first the kingdom
3. Concerned with expanding the kingdom by doing their assignment /part in God’s plan
4. Wants God to get the glory
5. Posture of ” I will wait on you God, because I know your ways are best”