Sometimes I ponder “What If”

What if Martin Luther King never realized that he had a dream and fought to see if come to pass?

What if Mali Music never wrote a song?

What if Christopher Columbus never decided to go explore…and discovered what now North America is.

What if Thomas Edison never invented the light bulb?

What if the pastors that led me to Christ never started their ministry?

We all are beneficiaries of these talents, dreams, discovers and innovations.


We’re now free to segregate with people of all races and the land is becoming a melting pot. When I’m in need of inspiration, getting through a hard day I turn on some Mali Music, Jesus culture, or Hillsong.

I live in a great country called America, land of the free, because of the Christopher Columbus’ courage and curiosity. I go home and turn on the lights so I can see, because of Thomas Edison. If they never started their ministry, where would I be? Somewhere in darkness, a sheep without a Shepard.


These people have made and are making contributions to society.


I ask you the question? What are you called to contribute? Don’t hold back what you are meant to put into the world to impact, help, inspire and literally change the life of this generations …and those to come.


What are you going to do…the real question is WHO ARE YOU? If you don’t know, turned to Jesus Christ and find out. God created you and he has something specific and glorious in mind when you were created. (Jeremiah 29:11, Jeremiah 1:5, Psalm 139:19, Jeremiah 33:3)


Don’t let the devil cause you to doubt what you are called to do. I’m sure some people thought Martin Luther King Jr. was crazy or delusional, but he had a dream. That dream is note profiting generations. Do what you are called to do.




Confessions of Ex-Marriage Crazed Christian Girl – Wait on God

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I remember shortly after becoming a born again Christian I became a little marriage crazed. Naturally if I’m not living a worldly single lifestyle I had the desire to have a Godly relationship and marriage that would be in God’s principles.  My past relationships had been sin-ridden and dysfunctional. While it’s a healthy desire to want to have spouse, it can become unhealthy bondage if you focus on it more than you focus on getting to know the Lord and the rest of his plans for your life. At one point I felt like THE REST OF MY LIFE WILL START when I get me “A HUSBAND”. But this is absolutely false. As a matter of fact it’s essential for us to have time alone with the father to get to know who we are in him and find out what our purpose is. Then God can connect us with someone who will be a part of bringing God’s plans to pass for both of yours lives.


I almost rushed into a marriage with this mindset that I NEED A HUSBAND. There were some red flag, but I ignored them because of fear of being alone and the gratification of having it now. Eventually because of all the hell that was breaking loose I decided to walk away and wait on the Lord.




If you take a look at the Book of Ruth, Ruth crossed paths with Boaz who became he wealthy husband, while she was in the field gleaning. She was sitting around waiting impatiently. It’s comforting to know that those who wait on the Lord who never be put to shame. God has promised us in his Word that if we wait for his best plan to be carried out in our lives we won’t be disappointed. Think about Abram and Sarah, God promised them a child from their own body. They started out in the spirit believing in faith, then when they didn’t see anything happen after 10 years they decide to come up with an alternative plan; they had Abraham impregnate their servant so they could have a child. Their child name was Ismael and he was a “wild donkey of a man”. Because of the mercy and sovereignty of God, even though they messed up and did that without the leading of the Holy Spirit, he still gave them their promise child, Isaac 10 years later. They waited 20 years for the promise.  Isaac went on to in the lineage of our Savior Jesus Christ. Kings came from their loins, and through faith we are all Abrahams heir with Christ. If someone is not of God you better, lose them, don’t stay in a relationship that is not of God, because you are afraid of being alone. God has his best reserved for you.

Give God time to work. Develop your spiritual gifts, natural gifts, talents etc. God is faithful to perform what he has said.


Wait Patiently

Wait Quietly

Wait Trusting

Wait Expectantly

Continue to serve the Lord with all your heart and draw near to him. Stand on God’s Word, it is your assurance.

God’s Plan for Relationships




What is a Relationship?   A connection, association or involvement


Just like every other area of our lives ; God has a plan.


I know the plans I have for you saith the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not harm you. To give you a hope and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11


The very 1st relationship in the Bible is –  Adam & Eve in the Garden:

So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adamno suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the ribhe had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. –Genesis 2:20-22


Jesus Relationship with the church: Our relationships should model after Christ’s relationship with the church.


But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. -1 Corinthians 11:3   

Traits and Qualities of Christ Relationship with His Bride:

–          He died for us, to have a better life

–          Jesus Christ sacrificed himself for the church (HIS BRIDE)

–          Jesus Christ  protects us, provides for us

–          Jesus Christ is always interceding for us , he is our advocate

Don’t Be Unequally Yoked

Amos 3:3L KJV Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?

Amos 3:3 NIV – Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?

Amos 3:3 NLT –  Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?


You can be unequally yoked in a relationship with someone who is not a Christian. You are alive in Christ, and they are still dead spiritually.

You can be unequally yoked with a believer b/c you can be at different levels of

– Commitment/ surrender to God

– Spiritual level (does he/she have a prayer life, are they born again, does he practice the word of God ?)  – What is his/her foundation??

We are to  build out life on the foundation of Jesus Christ. Its starts here.


“Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock.And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.” – Matthew 7: 24- 27


Questions to Consider:

– What background or beliefs do they have . What’s important to them?

– Goals , Passions Aspirations? Are they the same. What is your mission in life. Do they work together or compliment you? I would hate to be in a relationship with someone who has a dream of living in Alaska in the cold dark when I love sunshine or don’t do well there.

For Ladies when dating a guy you want to pay attention to his character: IS he someone you would want  to give you decision making rights to? God is the head of Christ, Christ is the head of man, and the man is the head of woman.Like we discussed earlier, In a biblical relationship we submit to our husband as we submit to Christ. Would you want to submit to him until death do you part?

Advice & Tips:

1. Don’t be desperate, understand your worth.

2. Respect yourself.

3. Keep your eyes open.  Look for fruit and not potential.

4. Don’t be in a rush; love waits. Wait to see if it’s a real

5. Let a man lead and initiate – its okay to show interest once someone is already pursuing or courting you but don’t try run him, control the relationship and where its going


For more in the topic check out the podcast here —> God’s Plan For Relationships – Young Fly Sanctified Radio